I can be tough, dammit!

So there I was after class, sitting around a couple of classmates at school and drinking sprite zero while I overheard a couple of them talking about going to the mountains near the city to go hiking and camping this weekend. Being a nice kid ( haha) that I am, I told them it sounded really interesting. Only to get one of them looked at me and smirked while saying this, "What does a princess know about going to the mountains?"

WTF b*tch said what? I calmly responded saying I had been there done that, only for him to say spending a weekend in my family villa and go horseback riding don't count as enjoying the true nature. Now if only I wasn't a civilized human being, I would have stomped him with my 4 inches stilettos.

What does a curly pimply random dude know about me to say that?

Back in high school, for a Sociology project, me and a bunch of fellow students from school did a weekend field trip all the way to Baduy Village. See, not all people volunteered to go there. The rest of us prefered going to other village called Kampung Naga ( Dragon Village ) 4 hours outside the city because it's more civilized and friendlier. Wusses.

Now I'll explain to you, my non Indonesian lovelies. Baduy Village is basically located in the hills of Kendeng Mountain, 6 to 7 hours from Jakarta by land transportation only to reach the outer rim of it, a little village called Ciboleger. The residents, Baduy Tribe, is one of the Java's oldest ethnics groups still living in a harmony with nature. They open some mountainside villages for visitors or researchers but some are closed.

Baduy Village consists of Outer Baduy and Inner Baduy, there are a couple of smaller villages in each which names I pretty much forgot but they're all up in the mountain and very traditional. The outer Baduy is a bit modern and accept civilizations, they have radio, TV, and lamps. The Inner Baduy however, isn't. They have rigid taboos, there are rules to visit there beside the fact it takes around 8 hours to get there on foot across the forests and hills from the Outer Baduy. They refuse anything modern : No electricity, no lamps, no toilets, no soaps, no touching people with different genders, no metal tools, no perfumes, no glasses, no cameras, no vehicles, etc. You can forget asking if there are any restaurants or computers and such. They're primitive and superstitious. The men work as farmers but not for the purpose of selling them, but for their families. Money isn't important for them, they don't wear sewn clothes, they don't choose their partners because their families and elders do that for them. They don't do formal education but they can count money. They speak Sundanese but some of them are fluent in Indonesia. They fight against attempts of the government to make them part of modern world.

Anyhoo, yeah back to the topic, I had a choice to opt for easier place to do my sociology project but I didn't. I chose Baduy Village. I went there with a few teachers and around 60 students using an army truck. No kidding. 60 people in an army truck. I felt like a sardine. I didn't go to a fancy schmancy private school for my high school because my parents wanted me to experience real life. No more private school for me back then. Hence the school couldn't provide edible transportation. We used this :















Along the way, my teachers reminded us all the taboos there. We're expected to talk silently and not stare at people. "Don't annoy the locals," Said them. According to many sources, Baduy people practice some sort of magic. Like a voodoo for their enemies. And they can perform it on you if you piss them off or disrespect their cultures / beliefs. A teacher even told the girl students to not be so pretty and dress down. "You don't want a Baduy man to be in love with you, they'll follow you everywhere. If they know where you live, they'll go to you even if it means walking for 5 days to Jakarta." Holy crap. That's the first time I wanted to be an ugly girl in my life.

It's not as scary as people said when I got there. We spent a night in Outer Baduy, in one of the local houses. It was so quiet but we got lamps. The villagers were friendly. The next morning at the crack of dawn we walked through the forests, rugged terrains, rivers and the hills to Inner Baduy with our bags and everything, we got to the first Inner Baduy village called Cibeo at 5 PM. YES, that's what I call walking, you guys. We were exhausted so I really admire Baduy people for doing this everyday. There the situations were completely different. The village people only say a word or two to us and they let us stay in their homes and provided us basic food. Basically only a small plate of rice for each of us only with vegetables. I brought shredded chicken in a tupperware only to have a bunch of people in my group asking me for some so what should be a food for a whole day was finished in that single meal time. Oh man. We stayed for 2 nights. We lived off Baduy food and I basically ate two or three spoonfuls in any meal time because I couldn't stand the stale taste. I really got my lesson. There I feel grateful for my home, my comfy bed, and my incredible cook.

I walked everywhere, we saw how they work, interact, plant vegetables and crops, traditional Baduy houses, traditional clothes woven by Baduy women ( I bought one for my mom ). We wanted to go further to Inner Baduy areas but they forbid us. They consider themselves people of the sacred inner circle, we couldn't go further than we already are because the next areas are forbidden territory and no strangers are permitted to enter. The Inner Baduy Tribe are very strict with their rules. At evenings we just sat there in silent until bed time because nobody could talk so much in moderate volume. My guy friends being moody because they couldn't smoke at all. My girl friends being moody because they couldn't shower. One time I woke up at 4 AM wanting to pee so a bunch of girls walked with me near the river, where we could pee only with flash lights lighting our way. We heard movements behind us and screamed, only to find out it was a couple of Baduy girls washing clothes in the river. At the crack of dawn. In complete darkness.

So far no scary things happened to us. But it happened to this girl in other group on the last night. People said she smoked near the river in the afternoon, and around midnight she started screaming and blubbering. Her body temperature was high and she was wailing like a crazy person. The Baduy girl whose house I stay at told me in limited Indonesian that the girl was possessed. That she made the god / the spirit of the mountains upset for violating their rules. The hair in the back of my neck really stood up that time. Luckily the possessed girl got better in the morning, one man in her group went to the village elder/ spiritual priest's house and apologized, eventually he checked up on the girl and she stopped screaming. Like the spirit had got away or something. Tell me if it doesn't freak you out.

We went back to the Outer Baduy village the next day, walking for a lot of hours again and finally reached our army truck to take us back to Jakarta, to school. Being in the truck was way harder then because people smelled so bad. But we laughed it off and I practically squealed seeing my car and my driver waiting for me. I remembered he brought me a sandwich and fries that I very quickly polished along with my regular clothes to change into. I didn't go home until after I visited my favorite spa to get my body scrubbed and massaged, also got my hair done. I believe my spa therapist squished her nose and my hairstylist thought he's witty enough and said, "Darling, you look awwwwwful", before working on my hair to make it look good again.

Of course I spent the following two days doing nothing but sleeping most of the times, but still the random dude today has NO rights to say what I know about nature. I'm so pissed. What do you think I should do? Write him a letter?

To : Random Curly Pimply Dude

B*tch Please, The "Princess" went to Baduy!

Lolita

I rest my case. Phew, such a long post. Don't skim, I'll know if you do. Kidding.


35 comments:

  1. rambles@25 said...:

    wow tht was an experience and a half and seriously makes u grateful for the things you take for granted. and u were brave for choosing the harder trip but its worth it and its something that will always stay with you.

    people judge too easily and they see u in your heels and designer clothes and assume one thing and u know wot they say about assuming things....it makes an ass out of u!!!

    GO LOLITA!!

  1. wow, sounds like a really interesting place!! But I don't want you taking me there!

    Just be glad that pimply was wrong and at least you aren't as narrow minded as him!! X

  1. Unbreakable said...:

    ounds like a really interesting place!! never judge a book by its cover. its great stuff even though i doubt i would want to do that. so your way braver than i am.

  1. Melissa said...:

    See, fashion girly can rough it. People just see the heels and assume that the outdoors is out of your compass of enjoyment. Proud of you!! Ignorant people never understand.

    Yes I wear heels and mascara but I love camping too!

    =)
    Have a nice day or night, which ever it is.

  1. Chase said...:

    you're ridiculous :P I'm glad you survived. way to be a champ.

  1. Dani said...:

    Wow...that is such an experence. You should be very proud of yourself for going on that trip. I'm sure it a real eye opener to see how different people live.

    I think that it is awful that people judge with out knowing all the details. Your classmate is a punk!

  1. Nashe^ said...:

    Those village civilizations scare me, to be honest. (They have so many taboos, I can't keep up!) Even stuff like Kuda kepang freak me out.

  1. You should dictate this post to him and then said "and Ibet you I could have done this all while wearing stilletos BITCH!!"

  1. Sam said...:

    Wow, that is quite the story! And good for you for a number of things. First, that you chose the more challenging trip and learned a lot from the experience. And second, that you took the high road, even when someone insulted you and made assumptions about you. You are a very cool girl!

  1. Nic said...:

    Great post - good for you! And I agree with everything Sam has said above me. And I love Girl on a Journey's comment, haha!

  1. Wonderful said...:

    Your trip into that village sounds so cultural and something that I'd probably read about in my anthropology class in college. But I agree with you, I prefer my own bed and comforts of home too. But I'm the same way, if someone says I can't do something, I'll do it just to prove them wrong. Haha, I'm stubborn. I can admit that.

  1. Sheri said...:

    Wow that is a trip you'll certainly remember forever. Perhaps "Random Pimply Curly Dude" needs to be slapped on the forehead and suggested to go visit there. He would probably piss off the mountain spirits and become possessed and such too though, ah well. :P

  1. freeTEYme said...:

    i enjoyed reading this post.. you described everything in detail i felt i was almost there... It also reminded me of some tales my lola (grandma) told us when we were kids about the forest spirits and gods... good one!

  1. LiLu said...:

    Oh chica... you know you can't let the haters get to you! It's just because you're so damn fabulous :-)

  1. OmegaRadium said...:

    Wow, Sounds like a great place to send kids to be humbled! I would love to check that place out.

    Like Unbreakable says, never judge a book by its cover. Who would have thought an Indonesian model/rapper/lawyer/princess would be soo tough. :P

  1. babe, i vote you stomp him with your stilettos. put those stilettos for good use ngeh he he. and there i thought i've seen the world almost enough, and you've seen more. way to go! you always rock at anything, you know that right? :D so, off you go, stomp him hard. in the groin. LOL.

  1. justjp said...:

    Thats awesome! Now, I'd be really impressed if you did it in heels.

  1. Fizzgig said...:

    wow, what an amazing experience! and yea, people that are quick to judge others, are just insecure in who they are.

  1. mylittlebecky said...:

    "you think you know, but you have no idea."

  1. DocE said...:

    First off let me say what a douche-bag that guy was to even attempt to judge you without knowing you.

    Second, what an absolutely wonderful and enlightening experience. I simple can not fathom what it must have been like for your to be a part of that and be able to have that opportunity. You are such an adventurer!

    Third, thank you for sharing this story, see? This is why I just adore blogging. I not only get to meet new and interesting people who do really bad-ass stuff with their lives, I also get to actually learn more about the world - what a delightful treat.

    You rock - that guy can suck it!

  1. drollgirl said...:

    ew. camping. i am not in to camping, particularly if it does not involve toilets, showers or beds!!! so i give you credit for doing this, but i am not signing up for it.

    and that guy is a judgmental turd and he is probably just trying to pick a fight and get you all riled up. boys. too bad you can't just send him a link to this blog.

  1. ScoMan said...:

    I'm sure nobody could skim through that. It was really interesting to read about your experience and the way people Baduy Village live their lives.

    As for the random pimply dude, I wouldn't even waste my time with him.

    If he wants to be pathetic and judge people that's his choice. You should just take comfort in the knowledge you've done something far tougher than any of his pussy little camping trips.

  1. *~Dani~* said...:

    Wow! I loved that post and read all of it. That trip sounded fascinating. Nothing like living among other cultures and beliefs to make you appreciate your onw. you are a tough chic!

  1. Sebastian said...:

    Now, that was a fun story, the kind of story I would never skim!

    Sounds like fun, if a little nerve-wracking. I've travelled a lot, and experienced many different things, but I'm not sure I want to do the 'back to nature' holiday.

    I'm OK without Internet access for a day or so, but any more than that and I go a bit wild.

    After that trip, have you ever been tempted to do something like that again? :)

  1. Gracie said...:

    That was such an interesting story! I love reading things like that. People have no right to judge, especially when they don't know anything about you.

    But going to places like that really make you realise what we take for granted and how blessed we are. I feel that way every time I visit the Philippines (though I admit most of the time I'm in luxury) but doing the everyday things and seeing people living in poverty.

    Great post!

  1. Baduy! My friends went there too on highschool. I was in science class, only the social students went there while we spent our time at the boring lab, damn.

    Btw, yeah! Baduy is so special. Hills and no electricity and such things like those, And you went there, woots! I don't even want, eww...

    and yeah, I'd love to see you stuck you heels on that guy's head, lol!

  1. theblacktulip said...:

    wow, that sounds pretty amazing! and that guy is a total douche. Baduy sounds totally hard core.

  1. Lace said...:

    Good story! Me likey.

    Oh girl, I'm alright! I just have these moments when I think, "WTF? The world is so messed up. People are so messed up. How in the world can anyone ever be sure of anything? How do we trust ourselves to take big leaps & not know where we're going to land?!" Ahh, it happens. I just have to push it to the back of my brain and carry on!

  1. Wow, that sounds like such an amazing experience.

    Just ignore the guy - no need to sink to his level. You're better than that, and you know it!

  1. He's ignorant and jealous. Bad combo.

  1. god, i HATE people that pass judgments when they dont even know who u are! Its like, excuse me, we were having a nice conversation about the weekend, where did u need to through in the judgments about me? Did I say that ur parents must be too poor bc they cant send u too a dermatologist? NO!
    God!
    Sorry, i hate people like that!!
    Ps i love those pictures u have :)

  1. nityamonto said...:

    haha yeah yeah you are absolutely true. I always saw baduy man walking alone roaming near train-rail close to my Uni. they really like peregrinate with nothing with. just cloth, not even wearing any sandals. they eat everything they find around them. haha! we were fed by thing like this in a private school.

  1. If somebody said that about me, I'd really stomp him with my three inch heels. But then again, if someone says that about me, he's actually right. I have never been hiking. :-(

  1. Jess said...:

    What a rude thing to say! I think you've pretty effectively proved that the comment was totally off-base, too.

  1. Mary Elizabeth said...:

    Wow! What an interesting post. People are so quick to judge. It really irks me. What an experience. I love camping, but wow, that sounds too intense for me.